Did you open this blog with a person's name in mind thinking, finally I can make them do whatever I want. This blog is not about that. As always it only talks about emotions.
Wishing the other person do or act the way you want them to. Well this can be the most devastating desire a human can have. Devastating because you can not make any one do that, until and unless you have something against them which they are afraid to lose. Once that fear is gone, your magic is lost.
So, why do people want that? Sometimes out of love, sometimes out of care, sometimes out of sense of superiority and sometimes out of willingness to control someone. Its a default human emotion, I feel. If you don't keep that in check it can ruin your whole life, life of people around you and your loved ones. This emotion or feeling can be the most dangerous one.
I think this is somewhere related to the desire to rule the world. Where you want the world to obey your orders and have a sense that there is no one above you. There is one difference although between ruling the world and wanting people to do as you said.
Parents usually do that with their kids, thinking they don't know what is right or wrong for them. Sometimes this emotion creates a lot of distance between them. During teen years almost no one can think from their mind. Its the hormones that is taking decision for you. But that can't be the reason to ask kids do whatever you feel is right.
The only way to get out of this is consciousness (the state of realizing or noticing that something exists). You need to keep a constant check on emotions/feelings that make you happy or make you sad. Unfortunately, like many other emotions, this is also the one in which other person has the trigger to your well-being. The only way to take control away from them is to not desire anything from anyone.I know its very challenging, but that is the only way to stay really happy with your own.
Take the switch to your happiness away from people. It should be yours to manage. The sooner you realize this, sooner you become happier.
