Stop considering your partner as your student

We often do this mistake of considering our partner as our student and try to teach them or tell them what is good and what is bad. Well, that is the first mistake to spoil the whole relationship dynamics.

They also have an identity outside the relationship, and they have also learned a lot of things on their own before they met you, also continuing this learning even when they are with you. So, stop thinking that they need to be taught like a kid.

Not everyone No one likes to be corrected every time. 

There is one spiritual leader whose one statement I like a lot "I don't teach anyone anything until they come and ask me, even its my own kid". If you consider this, you might be a lot happy.

What ever you are considering is good for your partner that has to come from within them. You can't force that from outside. Its as simple as motivation. Its available all over internet, but it will only work when it comes from within you.

• Don't tell them what is right and what is wrong.
• Stop correcting them every now and then.
• Don't force them to do things, they don't want to do.
• Stop imposing your choices on them.

Even if all of the above means spoiling themselves, let them do it. Every human being has a learning curve it has to go through to become a better version of themselves. It is highly probable that they consider themself a good version of their own and have no intentions to correct or better themselves. In such a scenario it becomes very difficult to force them to do things. Spoiling your relationship for this can be considered a kids act.

Achieving goals

 What makes you set goals? Desire to achieve something is usually the answer.

What happens when you set them and not being able to achieve? If your desire is very strong to achieve you will not be able to sleep properly and keep thinking about the goal.

If there is something that is not letting you achieve it, you either start fighting with it or try finding the solution on how to get past it. What happens when you are not let to do any of that? You get frustrated, you try for sometime and then you eventually give up. when you give up, you just not only give up on your goal, you also give up on your life, on all your dreams.

why does it happens that way? why can not a human being think of a solution to get what they want within the boundary of what they are let to work with. why is it that everything has to happen according to the way they are thinking and then only they will be able to do something. Well, this premise is very wrong, if you have to work on something you have to start working where you are and from what you have.

If your spouse or your parents are not letting you achieve the goal, think of a solution you can do that from outside your house. If it is your manager who is stopping you, think how can you do it outside your office. If its the world who is stopping you from achieving, I would say think again. Universe is here to grant your wishes not to stop you from achieving them.