when they always keep themself first

Question: what should you do in a relationship where your partner always keep themself at priority? Irrespective of your request, your ask, your needs. Its always their needs precede yours.

They want to have food, you have to arrange food. They want to take a stroll, you have to take a stroll. They want to hug, you HAVE to hug, because if you don't that clearly mean "you don't love them".

What is the solution to this tyranny? how can you explain your point of view, your perspective your feelings, your reasons to them? How can you explain that you are hurt because of their actions?

No Motivation, Brain also does not helps

I am in this peculiarly absurd position where I have to change the job, and get into a better company. For that I have learn a particular set of skills, which I am trying to acquire from past 9 years. I can not say that there is no progress, but its almost as equal to none.

My brain keep giving me reason for not following through and it insults me a day or two after when I fall back.

Relying on my brain for the motivation and keeping me consistent is failing me again and again. I need some external factors pushing me for this, which I don't have access to. I initially thought my spouse will help me but they are busy in their own world and have their own infinite chores to finish.

Everyone around who is aware of this intention of mine keeps asking, "when are you going to change the job, its been so long you are working for the same company". I have no answer for them, I keep falling back. :(

I am not sure how I will be able to finish this or if I will ever be able to finish this race?